John Novak
1 min readJan 2, 2020

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My rule is “use me, but don’t abuse me.” I grew up as my mother’s helper, trying to make her life easier as she did the hard work of raising myself and my eight younger siblings. Those habits have carried over into adult life, and I am always looking for ways to help.

My last girlfriend, however, was not satisfied with all of the things that I did unbidden. She had some big problems she expected me to deal with (which I did), but instead of leaving it to me to figure out how to resolve the problems she would micromanage the situation. This despite the fact that she had no real knowledge that she could apply.

The seriousness of this situation was exacerbated by the fact that she was one of those sad souls who never retain the good things in life but instead focus on the negatives. So while there were hundreds of successfully resolved problems, some of which she hadn’t even recognized as problems, all that she retained were the handful of solved problems that weren’t done the way she had ordered them.

I was looking for a partner, but she was looking for a slave!

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John Novak
John Novak

Written by John Novak

Working for a life, not for a living!

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